I got upset at Trevor this morning because he took apart Owen’s diaper cake. It is not as if Owen cares, will ever care or even notice, but I thought it was really cool of Luisa to make it, and it made me smile every time I glanced into the nursery.
It is not particularly surprising for Trevor to have taken it apart, it was very interesting looking, with little toys and things, and we did not place it in a place where Trevor was not able to reach it. On the other hand, he knew it was not his and that he should not play with it.
I think Trev realises that he should not have done it and he asked me if we can fix it. We will try and fix it tonight. I will also have to have a conversation with him about the trials and tribulations of being a big brother. I feel a bit hypocritical about it since I was much older than he is now when my sister was born and despite the fact that I did not have to share living space or toys with her, I still wasn’t always a model big sister.
It is still hard to come up with a good way of talking to him about it. I am thinking of telling him that having a little brother is going to be difficult, because we will have to spend a lot of time taking care of him and we will be very tired most of the time. Also, eventually he will start to get into Trevor’s toys and might break things without meaning to. However, he will probably love and look up to Trevor very much. So being a big brother will be a big responsibility but it might be lots of fun as well.
What would you tell him if you were in my place?
I’m no model big sister either… and I did have my sister in my stuff. We shared a room… and we always fought about it all the time. My sister and I had toys that we shared and some that were special that we didn’t share. Maybe before his brother gets into his stuff you could get him to choose somethings that he really likes and that will be just his no matter what. It’s concrete and that way he will know that he doesn’t have to give up everything. Well that’s my two cents and I’m only putting my two cents in cause I feel bad for having started the whole thing with the diaper cake. And keep in mind that I’m a second child… so I’m biased… I came into the world sharing almost everything!
i think you’re thinking about it way too much. trev is a nice kid and he will be a nice brother (look at how nice he is to that little girl in kindergarten, as soon as owen will be old enough for mischief, they will be best buddies). and i don’t remember ever learning anything bad from you, and any “abuse” i got i think was eiter well deserved or i actually profited from it in the end (like becoming a smart kid rather than a stupid one). i still look up to you, so keep up the good work 😉
it’s kind of fun though that i am now in a position to give advice, if nothing else, then about medical stuff 😛